A topic that is often neglected is simply how to hold and touch a partner. In an attempt to do everything correct technically, we sometimes forget that we are simply—for example—holding hands. We need to remember we are holding and touching another person when we dance
The Argentine Tango community uses the word “embrace” to describe the dance hold. Embrace is a great term which reminds us to be gentle with our partner. The word “hold” is useful because it suggests that we are holding another person. “Frame” is also a good term because it denotes the basic structure of the dance. Frame also reminds the leader that he has responsibilities, both to showcase his partner and to protect her on the crowded dance floor.
Within the dance hold or frame, contact between partners can happen from the thighs to the head. The amount of contact depends on the dance and the move. It also depends on the styling and relative size of the partners—their thighs, hips, chest/abdomen, cheek, and forehead. (Think also of the Five Points of Contact for ballroom style dances which were discussed previously.) Having contact requires some skill from both people. With a new partner, it is better to start with some separation and then gauge each other’s comfort level and desire. When a follow is uncomfortable, she can use the left hand and thumb on the front of the lead’s shoulder to literally push her partner away, forcing them to keep their distance.
Touch is important from both the lead and the follow—we both want to be giving and caring with our touch. When we touch or hold our partner, we want to aim for a touch that is both firm but not too tight, and free but not too light. If our touch is kind, educated and well-intentioned, then our partner will be more likely to enjoy the experience of dancing with us. A caring touch is part of becoming a good leader or follower.
Next week: The four main types of leads . . .
Tags: connection, lead and follow, partner
